The Curse of the Good Girl

So I know a lot of us have seen the movie Mean Girls that Lindsay Lohan did before her life fell apart. And I’m sure you’ve heard the many news stories about girls bullying other girls in school, unfortunately even causing some to go to extreme measures. So how do we address these problems with our own daughters?

I don’t have a daughter, but I am a strong, independent and some would say successful woman, and I’m all about helping steer younger girls in the right direction and empowering them to reach their full potential. Which is why I want to tell you about a great book and an event going on here in Houston I think you should attend if you do have a daughter.

The book by Rachel Simmons is called The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls With Courage and Confidence. She talks about the pressure on girls to be perfect, nice, smart but not opinionated and successful but not ambitious. Rachel argues that this pressure causes these good girls to disconnect from their true emotions and desires and that they never really learn the important life skills of conflict resolution or how to accept criticism. This hurts them down the road personally and professionally.

Rachel’s first book, Odd Girl Out, talked about the problem of female bullying and how the inability of these girls to handle conflict resolution often leads to indirect and viscous acts of aggression.

Now, if you’re local to Houston I’d encourage you to attend a workshop for parents and daughters (age 8 and up) coming up on September 30th.

Thursday, September 30
HOUSTON, TXSt. Agnes Academy
9000 Bellaire Boulevard
Time 7:00 – 8:30 pm
Sponsored by Blue Willow Bookshop

  • Admission fee $15.00 per parent/daughter
  • Includes one copy of The Curse of the Good Girl
  • Tickets on sale in August from Blue Willow Bookshop, by phone at (281) 497-8675 or for more information visit Blue Willow Bookshop.

The topics that will be covered in the workshop include:

•    How to break the Good Girl Glass Ceiling and develop an Inner Resume
•    The Myth of Girls’ Emotional Intelligence
•    How Good Girlspeak May Limit Your Daughter’s Potential – and What You Can Do About it Today
•    As a Good Girl, Your Salary Was Probably Set in the Seventh Grade
•    Good Girls and Criticism: With less and less exposure to honest feedback, girls don’t develop the thick skin they need to weather challenges and take healthy risks.
•    The Curse of the Good Mother: How trying to be a perfect mother sets a destructive example for your daughter.

Disclosure: I received a copy of the book for review, but no other compensation. I just think this is a good thing for girls and parents. 

The Curse of the Good Girl

So I know a lot of us have seen the movie Mean Girls that Lindsay Lohan did before her life fell apart. And I’m sure you’ve heard the many news stories about girls bullying other girls in school, unfortunately even causing some to go to extreme measures. So how do we address these problems with our own daughters?

I don’t have a daughter, but I am a strong, independent and some would say successful woman, and I’m all about helping steer younger girls in the right direction and empowering them to reach their full potential. Which is why I want to tell you about a great book and an event going on here in Houston I think you should attend if you do have a daughter.

The book by Rachel Simmons is called The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls With Courage and Confidence. She talks about the pressure on girls to be perfect, nice, smart but not opinionated and successful but not ambitious. Rachel argues that this pressure causes these good girls to disconnect from their true emotions and desires and that they never really learn the important life skills of conflict resolution or how to accept criticism. This hurts them down the road personally and professionally.

Rachel’s first book, Odd Girl Out, talked about the problem of female bullying and how the inability of these girls to handle conflict resolution often leads to indirect and viscous acts of aggression.

Now, if you’re local to Houston I’d encourage you to attend a workshop for parents and daughters (age 8 and up) coming up on September 30th.

Thursday, September 30
HOUSTON, TXSt. Agnes Academy
9000 Bellaire Boulevard
Time 7:00 – 8:30 pm
Sponsored by Blue Willow Bookshop

  • Admission fee $15.00 per parent/daughter
  • Includes one copy of The Curse of the Good Girl
  • Tickets on sale in August from Blue Willow Bookshop, by phone at (281) 497-8675 or for more information visit Blue Willow Bookshop.

The topics that will be covered in the workshop include:

•    How to break the Good Girl Glass Ceiling and develop an Inner Resume
•    The Myth of Girls’ Emotional Intelligence
•    How Good Girlspeak May Limit Your Daughter’s Potential – and What You Can Do About it Today
•    As a Good Girl, Your Salary Was Probably Set in the Seventh Grade
•    Good Girls and Criticism: With less and less exposure to honest feedback, girls don’t develop the thick skin they need to weather challenges and take healthy risks.
•    The Curse of the Good Mother: How trying to be a perfect mother sets a destructive example for your daughter.

Disclosure: I received a copy of the book for review, but no other compensation. I just think this is a good thing for girls and parents.